On The Journey With Coach Kathy: Death and Dying. The reason this is in the forefront of my mind is that we recently lost my father who suffered through a number of years with dementia. And while the events of his passing, a stroke that he could not recover from, were not unexpected, the way that his last three days played out were frustrating and difficult … The conversations that would have been good to have were about what he would want in the event of a stroke that left him unable to swallow (or any other end-of-life event). Did he want to stay at the nursing facility where he had been living for some time with the staff that knew him and cared for him? Or, did he want to be sent to the hospital?