Boston.com: Many of us are not even sure what our wishes are. When we are healthy, there’s no urgency to figure them out. When we are sick, we often have our hands full just trying to get better. If our doctor or anyone else raises the issue, many of us change the subject — “I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it.” There is very little chance, when one day our mortality looms large, that you or I will be taken care of the way we would want unless (1) we actually have figured out what we do and don?t want; and (2) we have told someone else — family who may need to make choices on our behalf, and also our doctor. Doing these two things does not need to be depressing — quite the contrary. The real issue is not “death”, it’s life…