I wished at that time the doctors would have recommended a “conversation” while she was thinking clearly. Two years later,(although it seems like overnight) her liver has shut down and she is in a state of confusion as a result of the toxins in her body. Our family is guessing on what we think she wants. We were also very unprepared for the 24 hour responsibility that the family has to care for her at home with the supplement of hospice care. There was no plan in the place and the result is a family divided on “who is pulling their fair share of taking care of her” and conflict over how she wants to spend her last days.

Having “the conversation” would have prevented so much turmoil in her last days. I urge everyone to talk in detail to their doctor, especially if they have had a diagnosis like my Mom’s . Talking and planning will enable your parents to die in peace and keep your family intact because the decisions were already made and discussed.

Please pray for our family so that we will can also forgive each other and enable my mom to die with the comfort of knowing that the family she left behind is in peace.

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