I had the conversation with my fiance and my children. Being in health care, I know it is just as important about talking about death as much as it is talking about birth and sex. My family has agreed to do exactly as I have asked. I have donated my body to U of L. I want a beautiful, Catholic memorial Mass followed by a traditional Irish wake. They know I want my life to be celebrated, not the ending of it to be mourned. I have told them that if I still have full quality of life and my heart stops then let them resuscitate, but if I come to a point where my mind is going, Im in pain it’s terminal or anything grave I want them to take me home and let me die with dignity and comfort in my own bed is possible. I want the medical team to know that I have a say so in my plan of care. I want all my loved ones to know what’s going on so I want a phone tree or something going so everybody can tell everybody and PLEASE come be with me! I want all my loved ones there when I go I don’t want to be alone.

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