In a guest blog post for The Conversation Project, Frish Brandt writes about the power of letter writing. Frish is a letter-mid wife and helps people write lasting letters. When thinking about what matters most to you and your end-of-life care, you can consider writing a letter to your loved ones.
I am a letter mid-wife; I help people write letters.
I’ve helped people write thank you letters, I’m sorry letters, I-need-to-tell-you-something letters. One doesn’t need to have a diagnosis to write a letter, one only needs to be mortal.
A Lasting Letter is a letter written to someone you care about, someone who you wish to hear your voice and read your words long into the future. With all the technologies we’ve invented, there is still nothing that replaces paper and the magic of the contemporaneous note.
Each letter is unique; each voice, each intention is different. A letter can be a memento, a statement of values, a guided instruction, a story, a love letter for all time, and more. People write letters to children, to grandchildren, to spouses, to friends.
Letters are often written to one’s children so that they can hear your voice in years to come.
The process is fluid and collaborative. You needn’t even know who the letter is for when we first begin. It comes with the process. Conversation flows, questions arise. It is a collaboration in which I am the scribe, the coaxer of questions. Working one-on-one we find the words that address whatever it is that seeks to be addressed. The process is often joyous, poignant, thought-filled and more — all of which results in a letter that is lasting.
What has surprised me most about Lasting Letters is what a relief it is to the letter writer. Often they have wanted to write this letter but didn’t know how to begin.
I was reading a lasting letter last night and I just realized this is not a difficult time,|
this is a great and rich moment that GOD-given us.
I knew every day is a gift, but I really couldn’t understand the meaning.
But now I know, This is a GIFT.
Everyone has a letter in them.
For more information, you can contact Frish at MyLastingLetters@gmail.com.