Reverend Gloria White-Hammond wasn’t sure what to expect.
How many members of the Bethel African Methodist Episcopal (AME) Church in Jamaica Plain (a neighborhood of Boston) would want to spend their evening talking about their end-of-life care wishes?
White-Hammond recalls, “I anticipated that we might get 10, maybe 20 people” for the first Conversation Project workshop. To her surprise, over 40 people attended. Even now, after two years, “people who didn’t join the first go around are starting to come as they’ve heard about it or as circumstances in their lives have changed.”
The ordained minister and pediatrician has found her congregation’s embrace of The Conversation Project Starter Kit and the Five Wishes advance care directive heartening. Discussing death and dying with her community has given Reverend White-Hammond a unique opportunity to use her experience as both a faith leader and physician.
“Given that I wear both of these hats,” Reverend White-Hammond says, “I think part of my job is to break down whatever sense of dichotomy there is between medicine and spirituality.”
“It’s not body versus spirit. It’s life.”
Both sides of the bed
For almost 30 years, she was Doctor White-Hammond. But 20 years ago, she felt drawn to another vocation. Though White-Hammond enjoyed being a pediatrician, she “had a real sense that there was another bit of work that I was called to do.” She went through seminary and got ordained, and continued to practice medicine while co-pastoring with her husband, Reverend Ray Hammond.
From her earliest days as a medical resident, patients sensed her willingness to talk about spiritual matters. “People would often feel very comfortable talking with me,” she recounts.
White-Hammond’s medical peers, however, rarely seemed to share her openness about religion or spirituality. “I learned during my medical school days [that I was supposed] to check that stuff at the door,” she says. “Yet I was keenly aware that that’s what many of my patients were thinking about.”
White-Hammond sees similarities between medicine and spirituality, especially as medicine becomes more patient-centered and more practitioners approach health care as a collaboration with patients. “The sense that we’re in this together,” she notes, “is the most rewarding and humbling aspect of both medicine and ministry.”
“Much of my work now,” she says, “is helping clinicians think and talk about spirituality.” Clinicians need not share the beliefs of their patients, White-Hammond says, but must respect them, particularly during a crisis.
“I can tell you from being on both sides of the bed, if you will, of the sick patient,” she notes, “that there has often been misunderstanding and mistrust” between a clergy member and the patient’s medical providers. This puts additional stress on already taxed patients and families.
“What we need to do,” White-Hammond says, “is create a space where we can talk — each one of us fulfilling our roles — and learn how we can come together to support the person we all care about.”
Overcoming mistrust
Reverend White-Hammond also uses her position as both an African American pastor and physician to help bridge another often unspoken divide. With a history of medical exploitation including the Tuskegee Study and the racism and health disparities that persist to this day, “the suspicion that many African Americans have with regard to the medical system remains robust,” White-Hammond says. Add this to the fraught experience of advanced or terminal illness, and African American patients and their families can sometimes view “comfort measures only,” for example, as withholding treatment.
White-Hammond addresses these misgivings during Conversation Project workshops. “My role as both a medical provider and pastoral leader is to facilitate those discussions,” she says.
Having seen families choose ventilators or risky surgeries as demonstrations of love or religious faith when they had little chance of improving a patient’s quality of life, White-Hammond advocates early discussions about end-of-life care wishes. “God can work miracles,” she says, but faith should not mean choosing treatment that only prolongs anguish and goes against a patient’s bidding. “If the person didn’t want to suffer in a certain way, we should ensure that they don’t suffer in that way,” she says.
Changing the culture
“The blessing of the Conversation Project is that we have begun to normalize [end-of-life] discussions,” White-Hammond says. “It’s starting to change the culture.”
People come to Conversation Project workshops with circumstances as different as a young couple expecting a baby, and a gentleman with a seriously ill sister. “He recognized that, in order to support her, he’s got to do some of this work for himself,” White-Hammond explained. Another church member’s father died unexpectedly, and he said: “I want to do this differently.”
“Studies have shown that many people — including African Americans — appreciate having [end-of-life] conversations in their churches,” White-Hammond notes. “We’re giving people tools, questions they can pose, and ways of thinking about it that makes the conversation easier.”
“The Conversation Project work we do is helping people talk about their end-of-life concerns from a spiritual perspective. I think it’s a gift that people are ready to embrace.”
WHAT a BLESSED service!!!!
MOST DEFINITELY NEEDED….a group discussion on death, dying!!!! LOVE THIS!!
While we are to REJOICE with those who REJOICE and WEEP with those who WEEP, there’s SOMETHING about the GRACE of GOD and THIS Ministry does just THAT!!!
God Continue to shower you with blessed Wisdom and Grace from above!!!
Great article. I was a pastors wife. I was caregiver for my parents, mother-in-law and husband. Thinking through situations before they happen is senseable and wise. It makes things more manageable. I don’t know why we refuse to think about the inevitability of death. It’s as much a reality as life. The question becomes not “if” but “how”?
Thank you for this post. My research interests are often centrally focused on the intersection of medicine and spirituality, so I’m so happy to know about this work by Rev. Dr. White-Hammond.
I am so glad I had the end of life conversation with my Mom who transition to Heaven on August 26, 2016. I was Mom’s caregiver from January 2009 – August 2016 Her wishes were: Do not put me on a ventilator and no feeding tube. Mom fought a long battle of lung cancer and God extended lots of Grace and Mercy and she did not have heavy pain til the morning of her death. The last seven years of her life we got to travel and she continued to serve the Lord unequivocally. She had a sweet, sweet spirit and tuch many lives. When she transition that morning of 2016 I honored her request and did not prolonged her death and after being in the hospital for 3 hours the Lord sent an angel her daughter Frances came for her Mom. May Mom & Sister Rest In Eternal Peace (RIP). Amen
I would like to know how to get the coversation project kit. As a licenced health and life advisor, family service advocate and licenced clergy, I see the benefit in this work. To hold workshops of this nature would be an answered prayer to advance the work for which I am called. Please contact me.
My ministerial colleague Rev. Dr. Gloria Jimpson also a Pastor of an AME faith community did her Doctoral thesis on this very subject some years ago.
I was a member in the cohort group as Rev. Dr. Jimpson began her research in this area of investigation of Elders having conversations about death and dying.
It is so important that the medical community begins to understand the connection of health and illness and the spirituality needs of the patient.
As.a Professional Nurse of 40 years the spirituality concerns were an everyday component of my care for my patients.
Although > I was within a secular Medical Center my background and faith tradition as a Catholic influenced my actions. Catholic Healthcare has always made the connection.
I hope others as well begin to see the necessary continuum. I have linked my Healthcare background and health law scholarship with Pastoral Care and End of Life Issue as Doctor of Ministry.
Dr.Valerie Lewis – Mosely is correct about the subject of my doctoral project. I too found the need for the participants to express their thoughts, concerns, and experiences where death was concerned. The follow- thru was to remind them that the experience they have had and continue to have with the spirituality of death modeled by our Lord and demonstrated through the tradition of Bible reading, hymn singing and sharing the belief that there is the availability of eternal life through belief in the promises of our Lord.
I too found that those willing to lean on the spiritual experiences were able to find a peace that they could easily express and would willingly share with others concerning death anxiety.
Wonderful important work! I highly recommend a new book, available through Amazon, called Beyond Surviving- Cancer and Your Spiritual Journey by hospital chaplain extraordinaire David Maginley in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada.
This is such an important and timely endeavor. Please keep it alive and spreading.
Months ago I read a column about your Planning Ahead series. It ties in to my just launched project to provide Elders and their families a simple, inexpensive way to capture the location and details of all the elements needed to manage the family when there is a disruption.
It is also a gentle and non invasive way for mid career folks and parents to start to have “the conversation”. Get Mom and Dad to just fill out My Life Directory as a start to getting organized.
I am an Elder and offer this at my costs since I believe (and have learned from others) the importance. I would appreciate any thoughts you have. thanks Neil Hitz
https://mylifedirectory.com